Below are a few points that speak about the fears and how to overcome them.
Are you scared that your ex-boyfriend might not come back to you. Is he worried that he might get hurt again? Is he worried that the arguments will start again? The list can be never-ending and every moment can be questionable but the actual question is, have you gained back the confidence from the last time you broke off with him. You should start with all the "Why's" first and then determine the "How's" to overcome them. It's very had to turn the pointer to any one particular reason because the recipe for a relationship to become sour.
Enough of whining and it's now time to get back on track and start working towards getting your ex-boyfriend back. Try and show him how to get past the fears of the previous relationship by sharing what you have analysed. Try and make it look like a joint venture. It's always good to speak in a tone which is as though you are getting back together rather than being interrogative. The chances are high that there is confusion. Good, now that you have his attention confusions can be sorted out. Try and help him sort out his emotions.
Make all effort to show how much the relationship means to you. This can be done by writing and emotionally touching note with show acceptance of the reasons for the breakup, doesn't matter whose fault it was, and that the decision was right at that time. Try and recall the good times together and show interest in the fact that you would like to be together with him forever.
The three main categories in which your past fears can be classified and overcome are:
- Play your cards very carefully this time. Do not open up all your cards at the same time. Curiosity is what killed the cat. Make him curious to know what you have been up to. Don't give out every detail. This would make him interested in what you are doing and would give him an opportunity to peek into your life. Let him do it.
- Every time you are around him or in fact you know that he is watching you, try to look and wear things the way he liked to see you. Wear that perfume and the cloth. That's a killer. You would have done a good amount of getting him back exercise by knocking the right senses. Try and be as natural as possible. This will surely help you get your ex-boyfriend back. Tickle his senses.
- Make a list of things that your ex-boyfriend did not like. Try and correct yourself to avoid those things and if possible tell him that you too have started to develop similar tastes by not liking those things. Try and move around with confidence and carry yourself well, this attracts men.
These are some pointers that will help in getting your ex-boyfriend back.